The Air Vent

The air vent. It's a simple task. Basic design, easy steps, but something about this house transforms all the easy things and turns them into a large, frustrating irritant.

As you can see, it's not attractive. It's pretty standard, but come on, we can do better.
Lowe's sells aluminum sheet metal and a metal cutter. Of course there is also paint, glue, wood filler, and you will need the original screws.
I also went to Hobby Lobby to get the framing material. There was not a pre-made frame, but they sell framing pieces in the canvas/art area. There I was able to pick out the particular sizes I needed, and I assembled the frame myself.
I glued the frame together, filled the seams with wood filler, sanded it, glued the metal in, painted the whole unit, and drilled in holes for the screws.

I could go into the failure that was my first model, but it's dull. I used the wrong material, measured the wrong holes, the drywall is a mess, etc. Trust me, my second attempt is the winner.

It's a small improvement, but an improvement all the same. It's all in the details now. ;)

M.LEWIS

Stressed and Confused

My, my, some time has gone by. A lot is going on around here since my last post. I won't write about all, mainly because it would take too much time. Time, or really, free time is a rarity around here lately. I am not surprised by this. After all, I have a 3.5 yr old and a 16 month old, but man, I really am in need of a break.

I know, I know..."Didn't you say last time you were going to Disney World?"

Yes. We did that, and that does not count as a break or a vacation in any sense. Please don't think of me as ungrateful, I do very much respect the money that went into that trip, and I am honored by all the planning and organizing that went into it, but it just wasn't the nice, relaxing vacation I wanted...or what my kids needed. It was hot, humid, crowded, too scheduled, and we didn't even get to see Chris for half the stay in Orlando. Not to mention we spent more days on the road to and from than were actually spent at Disney World.
I returned home more exhausted than when we left, and I still felt that intense urge for a family road trip to a fun, cooler place to "kick back" for several days. I sat on the idea for about a week until my supportive and understanding husband told me to go and book a stay in Colorado for later this year. Sure, I'll have to wait for fall, but it will AMAZING. I am so looking forward to it.

So that's the future, back to my current life.

I will pause here a moment and warn any non-parent on what you are about to read. You don't need to read the rest of this post, no really, I am saving you here, take this opportunity and run. Sure, if you are going to be a parent, read on, it's important you know what lies in your future, but beware...it gets real. Fast.

Lorelai's new thing is to refuse to poop.
That's right. Apparently you can do that, and you can do that for days on end. And shockingly, she's not alone. The internet has been very reassuring with this odd issue. A LOT of kids do this, and they do this for months at a time?! Sure, you have to actually administer medication in a certain location after 5-6 days to get that stuff out, but the kids keep up that craziness for a long time. I guess my kid is now apart of that. *sigh* Potty training her has been awful. She is great with #1, but terrible with #2. We are going on about a year soon. In the past 3 weeks, Lorelai has taken it to a new level.
We backed off on the whole "you have to use the potty for poop too" talks and just decided to let her do her thing on her own time. (The trip to FL also was a factor.) But then, instead of her inching closer to using the toilet, she started this "hold it until mommy forces medication on you" bit. At first I thought she was just constipated, but it is clear now she is doing this voluntarily. I don't get it. I have read many articles, and yet, I still don't get it. Regardless of her motives, she is still refusing to poop.
Has anyone else had this issue? I very much hate that I have to wait almost a week then give her a suppository so nothing becomes impacted. She cries, I feel horrible. I don't know what changed, I don't know what I can do to make her stop. I just know that this kid has blown my mind in ways I never could have imagined...and this one is not good.

I can't describe the odd stress this is bringing to my life, but I can feel it. It's a pit in my stomach, an anxiousness in my chest, I even pray about it before I go to sleep then find myself dreaming about it.I just want my precious girl to be healthy and happy. I wish I could eliminate this, what feels like a ridiculous,  problem from our lives.

It has been 3 weeks of this, and I am so ready for it to be over. Monday I will make a call to her pediatrician and hope they have something to offer me that will help. For now, we wait.

Sorry for the TMI.


M.LEWIS

The Hot, The Humid, And The Broken AC

In less than 24 hours we will be on the road to Orlando.

"Ooooooh, vacation!" you say.
"Yes." I say. "...but not with enthusiasm."

It is kind of a bummer that I am not more pumped up by the whole idea of a all-expenses paid trip to Disney World, and honestly, I feel kind of guilty for not being more excited. But man, life has been rough the past few weeks. I won't go into every problem, every drama, every stresser, but basically I am going into this trip exhausted, tense, and hesitant.

We'll jump to the biggest issue. How about a broken AC?

Yep, Saturday evening we returned home from dinner around 7:15 and I immediately spotted a large puddle in the laundry room by the garage door. My first thought was Phoebe had been up to no good while we were gone, but I quickly realized this mess was not because of her. The water (yes, it was just water) was coming from the foot of the door jam. This was very puzzling to me. There was also wetness in the garage by the door, and on the other side of the wall in the house...making my carpet nice and squishy. Of course, I panicked. Was it a leaky washing machine? A broken pipe in the wall? The AC unit? The water heater? Please, Lord, don't let it be something leaking in the slab foundation...

With some investigation, we knew it was not the water heater for it was completely dry around the unit. We also figured it was not the AC because it was still running fine. We were out of ideas, and were soaking towels trying to find a source, so we called an emergency plumber to the house and waited. Around 10pm the plumber showed up, did very little, and told us it was the AC unit afterall, and he could not do a thing for that. We wrote him a hefty check for doing basically nothing, and began placing bowls to capture the leak and setting up fans to dry everything out.

In the morning things we remarkably drier (yay!) and we then called a AC repair man. Keep in mind, this is Sunday. Not just any Sunday, Father's Day. I knew it was going to be hard to get some one out, and it was going to cost a fortune, but if you remember, at this point I had only 3 days until we left for Florida, I needed this thing diagnosed and fixed fast. To my surprise, the company I called answered at 8:20am and had someone at my house by 9:15am. I was told there would be a large service call fee, which I expected, but the repairman waved it, which I did not expect. He poked around and said it needed a new cooling coil, and a recharge of freon. But that was only a quick, temporary fix. The unit is 14 years old, and it was failing...it probably did not have much life left and we discussed installing a whole new system. Chris and I agreed to go ahead and do it, but we informed him of our timing issue. The man shuffled around his other clients and told us he could get it done Tuesday...one day before we leave.

The unit was still cooling at this point, so I wasn't too worried about the 2 day away scheduling. Then several hours past.

"Hey...it's hot in here." I thought.

Sure enough, the temperature was rising and the AC was officially dead. We called the repairman again and we did some troubleshooting over the phone. We were told that was most likely unfixable, and we would have to wait until Tuesday morning. *whines* Sunday afternoon to Tuesday morning? No AC? *cries* It wasn't his fault, and he had done so much for us, it was just really sucky.
The repairman called about 3 more times apologizing that he couldn't do more, and he offered to buy us a Father's Day meal out, and to deliver a window unit for at least one room.

We did take him up on his dinner offer, and we decided to buy our own window unit just in case we needed it later for whatever reason.

Monday the repairman dropped by and tried to see if he could fix the unit at all until they could replace it, but no.

It's hot and humid, kids are cranky, I'm cranky too. Addy's molars are coming in, so that doesn't help anything at all. Lorelai hates the heat as much as I do, so we were not a fun bunch to be around. I got them and the dog over to my mom's house for part of the day, we did go out to lunch, but there were still a lot of tears, and still so much to get done before our departure.

It is now Tuesday morning. They are here, already working, and I am anxious. I am hoping it is simple, straight-forward, and not too time-consuming. I know it will take most of the day if not all, but when that sweet cold air fills my house again I will be so grateful, so thrilled.
Then, I have to get my butt going on packing the car for early tomorrow morning. I am having house guests while we are gone, so I will make sure they pay special attention to AC, making sure everything is operating smoothly.

I will be happy to get this taken care of. Oh, and I predicted this would happen this summer...just sayin'. At least it didn't happen while we were gone.

Like I said, there have been other issues, other dramas, but I won't discuss them here. I am just emotionally, physically, and mentally drained and this trip isn't going to be relaxing. Trapping my teething, car-hating 1 year old in carseats, hotels, and strollers will not make her happy in any way. Lorelai should be better, but Addy will probably overshadow her with screams and tantrums. Please God, prove me wrong. I will be so happy to be wrong. Even if I am wrong, I am still in Florida. Lord, give me patience...and cooler weather.

P.S. I am so grateful for our understanding, kind repairman Mr. Don Trotter. He has gone above and beyond the call of duty and we are so very thankful for him and his company. If you are having any issues with your AC, call him! Drop my name, he knows us well by now! ;)

P.P.S. Departure in T-minus 22 hours and counting...


M.LEWIS

Playground Bed

Outdoor projects are my new love...probably because I have no more indoor projects, but still, it's fun making things look nice. However, it is getting hot, so we are running out of time to do a lot of the heavy work.

I already tackled the deck earlier this year, so we are on to adding some landscaping touches.

• Create playground bed, line with stone, add mulch
• Insert stepping stones from the deck to the playground
• Re-line the flowerbed by the fence with stone
• Fill in bare spots in grass with either seed or sod
• Plant a couple crepe myrtles in the backyard

This is not including the dirt and sod we already bought for the side yard (though we need more there too), the new plants and bushes we planted in the front bed, and the seed we already spread around our front tree. Oh, and I need to repaint the chimney. Not landscaping related, but it still is on the list.

Yesterday, we tackled the big project; creating, framing, and filling the playground bed. It took 3 trips to Lowe's and was under $130 including tax.

We do not have a lot of space to play with, but we definitely have some potential in sprucing up the plain area. Lining the playground adds an aesthetic element to the yard, and makes mowing and edging easier. Later, for future owners, it can also work as a garden or a picnic area.

We loaded up the backyard with our supplies: Landscaping fabric, and fabric anchors; dozens of stone pavers; bags and bags of kid-friendly mulch; stepping stones; levels, shovels, trowels, string, markings for sprinkler heads, a hoe; and lots of water, suncreen, and persistence.

We started around 10am and including a break for lunch, we were finished around 3:30pm.

It was totally worth it. I think it looks so much better. We are going to be using the same stone to re-line the flower bed on the other side of the yard as well. I want to add a crepe myrtle in the back corner of the playground bed. (There is room, though the picture doesn't show it.) I also want to plant one in the flower bed for more privacy from our neighbor's yard.

I am glad to have this big project accomplished, it will make all the other tasks seem small. ;)


M.LEWIS

Tips and Tricks

People always seem genuinely surprised by my home improvement projects. While flattering, what I do can be done by anyone. In the past few years I have attempted and accomplished tasks I never really thought about until home-ownership. 

If you are in the position of updating your home, but don't know where to start, I am going to give you 5 tips and tricks to get your ball rolling.

1. Contact paper is not just for shelves. While it lines and protects your shelves great, this product can do so much more. Put it on walls, countertops, mirrors, glass, furniture. It comes in all patterns and finishes...and it's so inexpensive, there is no reason not to consider contact paper for some fun updates.
   Here are some of my uses:
   (If there is a blog about it, the picture is the link...)

Wall decal

New countertops

Pantry backsplash

Laundry room stripe

Chalkboard table

   2. Spray Paint fixes a lot. It makes things look new, clean, shiny, and cheap! It can be used on almost everything. Though, you will probably have to practice on getting a certain "professional" application skill...but the finish project always comes out great.

Foyer light

Lorelai's nightstand

Front porch

Lorelai's dresser

   3. Don't be afraid to sand and stain/paint. This is loads cheaper than ripping out the old and buying and installing the new. If you can salvage it, do it. It's work, but sanding and staining is not that hard, just time-consuming!

I restained every bathroom cabinet

Repainted the kitchen cabinets

Refinished and restained the deck

Restaining the master bathroom

   4. Vinyl tiles are not the enemy. Though they have a bad rep, vinyl tiles are not bad at all, in fact, I love them. They are easy to install, nice to the wallet, easy to replace, and they are surprisingly versatile. Plus, they are not as hard and cold as ceramic. You might mess up a few tiles, but you get the hang of it pretty quick.

Kitchen backsplash

Kitchen sink backsplash

Master bathroom tile

   5. Think outside the box, be creative. If you think of something you want, try making it. It will be custom, far cheaper, and specifically what you want. Don't be afraid to dig flower beds, knock a hole in the wall, fix a pipe...know your limits, but give it a whirl. You'll be surprised, hopefully in a good way. ;)

DIY headboard

New flowerbed

Mudroom-like station

Starburst mirror

Installing the dishwasher

Hope this helps anyone stuck on what to do. Also, I have done far more than I thought, haha. ;)

M.LEWIS

The Light at the End of the Paint Can

My mini not-so-mini project.
I thought it would be fast, easy, and inexpensive.
Well, one of those things was correct.

Here is an old picture of our little foyer. Pre-paint, pre-better accessories. Anyway, there is my project. That little light. Not a bad style, but brass...very brass. So, I could buy a new fixture, but it would cost $60 easy and the styles are hard to match what I want; Or, I could try to refinish my existing fixture for far cheaper. And, if I royally screw it up, I could just buy a new one anyway.

I bought a can of textured spray paint and primer in one for all surfaces. It's at Lowe's for less than $6.

 I dismantled the fixture from the wall. That was not easy. I did shut off the power at the breaker, but the wires, the bolts, the screws...it took some time. Probably more than it should have, but I didn't want to do anything wrong. I got it down. Then taking apart the pieces took more time. Oy. That thing was not going down easy. I got it to the point where I could work with it. It's mainly glass, so I had to cover the glass panels. Thoroughly, precisely, and with lots of more time.

About an hour from when I first started, I finally got to the paint part. 

Before prep, excuse the dust

Cutting out the contact paper panels and taping them on

Completely covered and ready for paint

 Painting it was messy and difficult. Hanging chains, a center piece that was hard to manipulate, impossible to find a way for it to dry without touching anything, slipping wires...a little bit of everything.
It's not perfect, but it turned out pretty well. The upper center parts still have a bit of brass, but I simply can't reach it. It's soldered shut and you do what you can.

Tada

It better matches everything now

Looks good to me

It took a little over 3 hours...yes, I probably handled it too soon after painting, but I needed to get done. I have wild children, dinner to make, and no patience. ;)

Now for the front outdoor light...I have a different execution plan for that one.

M.LEWIS

Fake Beauty

Anyone else tired of the media talking about women and body/beauty issues?
I hope other people are.
I feel a bit mean with my reaction. I feel like I should be standing up saying something stupid and hollow like "You go girl!" but really, I feel annoyed, irritated, and frustrated.

To me, it is so contrived, so disingenuous. We shake our finger at people and corporations that "fat shame" and "stream-line beauty" so we then "rebel" and then talk about how we don't need to talk about it. Constantly.

We shouldn't be focusing on women's physical appearance. So let's draw attention to women's physical appearance then tell them not to focus on it.

Got it?
...Me neither.

It is now a beauty-crime to be thin, white, blue-eyed, and blonde. You are hated if you have a "thigh gap" or is you "pass the finger trap test." You get the hipster sneer if you wear makeup, or if you put on form-fitting clothes. Painting your nails? How dare you. Curling your eyelashes? You monster. You are a disgrace to women everywhere.

Interesting. I do a lot of these things, and I felt much better about myself before social media "came to my defense."

Why do I do these things?
Clearly, it's because society has convinced me I am ugly and I need to do these things to so I can begin to see myself as beautiful and confident.


Wrong.
I do these things because I want to, I like to. I think it's fun and I feel more peppy and energized when I feel well-groomed. It's a miracle if I get through the day in the same shirt. I spend my time playing "where's your nose?" and naming colors. I read story books with pop-up pages, and I have cut up more bananas than I thought possible. My big trips out consist of picking up forgotten items at Target or buying paint at Lowe's. I am continuously falling behind on laundry, vacuuming, and watering the plants. (The "housewife rant" is worth anther blog.) My life is a little...boring. Important, valued, beloved, but boring. 
Slipping on some trendy jeans with my freshly painted toenails makes me feel cute. Putting on some makeup and fixing my hair makes me feel pretty. I spend a grand total of 10 minutes getting ready. 10 minutes that is usually stretched out to 30 because my one-year old is quite needy and fussy, but collectively I get 10 minutes to spend on myself. The makeup rubs off in a few hours, my clothes get smeared with peanutbutter, and my hair and nail polish look disheveled at an amazing rate, but I still do it. Taking care of myself and my appearance goes a long with me. Like when one gets over a cold, you want to put on pants, run a brush through your hair, and smile with minty fresh breath. It makes a difference. Do I fret over my appearance? Do I worry if my hair gets wet in the rain? Do I feel terrible if I wear yoga pants 50% of the time? Nope.


Why?
Because these things are just a tiny part of how I see myself. I am not defined by my outward appearance. I am so many things beyond my hair color, dress size, and the shape of my nose.

Finding the narrow area where you are socially acceptable is difficult if you rely on pop culture. You must be slender, not overweight, but not too skinny. Though "overweight" is a term that is now frowned upon. You are either, curvy, more-to-love, or "a real woman." Though too skinny is bad to, you then obviously have an eating disorder. You also need to wear enough make-up to "accentuate your features" but too much that you look like a Halloween mask. Oh, and if you go bare you are either "homely" or a hero...it depends on your motive. 
You must wear clothes that say "I'm not trying too hard" with a simple t-shirt and jeans, but they have to be the right style of t-shirt and jeans. If you wear skirts all the time you are either a cool hippie, or a weird homeschooler. Hair? Well, long is feminine and pretty, but it can also be described as sexy, which would be appealing to men. And, as we all know by now, being seen as "attractive" to men is horrible and demeaning. That is, unless, your hair is too long, then you are considered a bible-thumper or a hoarder. Short is funky and says "I don't care about society's standards." This has become popular, so popular that it's becoming trendy...losing it's rebel status. Too short and you seem too masculine...or that you are having a Britney Spears meltdown. Shoes are lower on the totem pole (literally) but there are rules there too. High heels suggest confidence, but you run the risk of men looking at your legs more (again, not good...men showing interest in women? ew). Wearing flats everyday means you are either Zooey Deschanel or modest and shy. Sandals all the time suggests you are lazy...or fun...I forget what the sandal has to look like to determine the difference. I think it's sequins.


Confused? Exhausted?
Yeah, well, try writing it.  

All these "women's movements" seem to be missing the point. Maybe that is because they aren't defending you. Maybe it is all a skillfully crafted illusion. Stop working the client, stop advertising self-identity, stop angling the conversation to your benefit. Everyone has an agenda. I've learned a lot from Mad Men.

“You are the product. You feeling something. That’s what sells." -Don Draper 

Just be you. Don't be sold on an idea, go with your gut. If you feel best in a long skirt, flowing hair, and no makeup; excellent. If you feel like skinny jeans, heavy eyeliner, and platform heels best expresses yourself; go for it. But no one should then set up a precedence for others. Men, women, we all are bombarded with this crap far too often (hence the vintage beauty ads). Just don't fall for it.

Just please, please, stop playing victim. Stop heckling, judging and criticizing others. There is no standard, just fads and big mouths. Things change, evolve; in ten years there will be a whole new set of "rules." Look past it. 

Do what I do, look at the latest celebrity magazine cover with Blake Lively at the beach in her spunky bikini, showing off her thigh gap and no-stretch-mark-tummy and think: I hope she put on sunscreen.


M.LEWIS